Dec '10

Wearing a New Crown

December 31 – Core Story

What central story is at the core of you, and how do you share it with the world?
(Author: Molly O’Neill)

For the past several months, I have been thinking about the future of Lisa-Unmasked.

During the Best Coaching Blogs contest, I was toying with the idea of shutting it down.  In fact, I was well into the process of building an entirely new blog.

After being named a Top 10 winner, I thought it would be a  perfect time to retire the blog while at the so-called “top of my game.”

I know now, I wasn’t even close.

What You Don’t Know

Over the past few weeks, I’ve become fascinated by the story of the goddess, Inanna.  Inanna is the most important goddess of the Sumerian pantheon in ancient Mesopotamia and one of the many myths she’s associated with is the “descent into the underworld.”

The story goes something like this.

Inanna was worried about her sister Eriskegal, so she decided to visit the Underworld to see her. Eriskegal’s husband, who was the God of Death had recently deserted her. Though the goddess Inanna felt concerned about her sister, she dreaded the trip. After all, the two sisters had never gotten along very well.

When Inanna arrived at each of the seven gates of the Underworld, the gatekeeper would demand that she leave one of her garments and required her to leave her jewels, and even her crown.

When she finally saw her sister, the goddess stood before her, naked and vulnerable. And Eriskegal was angry with her, feeling that Inanna had not been supportive of her. Why she hadn’t even visited before now. So Eriskegal flew into a rage and killed her on the spot.

Inanna had been foresighted enough to advise her servant that if she did not come back, he should mount a rescue attempt. When she didn’t appear, he appealed to Enki, her father, who sculpted two tiny creatures from the clay beneath his fingernails and sent them into the Underworld with the servant and carrying magical substances called the Food and Water of Life.


Upon their arrival in the Underworld, the servant asked for Inanna’s body and the creatures fed the lifeless Inanna the Food and Water of Life, magically returning her to life. Inanna then requested that she be allowed to return to the world and her sister consented.

As Inanna passed through the seven gates during her ascent to the world, each of her possessions was returned to her. She returned home to resume her role as the Queen of Heaven with her crown once more upon her head.

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Honoring the Call

The version of the story goes on to say this:

One of the Lessons of the Goddess Inanna: Just as Inanna had to shed a part  of her identity—something that symbolized an important role or relationship in her life, so must we.

If we are to remain connected with our ‘true’ selves, our inner truth, we must divest ourselves of our attachments to the “outer world”, the face we show to others, and instead, travel inward to find the meaning of our lives.

I have never heard this story before and I was surprised at how much I could relate to it to the lessons of it.

You see, I’ve been to hell.

I have been stripped of almost every identifiable feature of a life that was 35+ years in the making.

The “losses” were  endured over a period of SEVEN long years.

And during this time, Lisa-Unmasked was born.  I have stood before you, naked and vulnerable, writing the words of my heart, which for me, were  the food and water of Life.

My life.

It was only yesterday that I realized I have made my ascent.  That the “crown” that was returned to me has been re-jeweled with pearls of wisdom and jewels of self-love.

And it was yesterday that I was told that sharing what I learned in hell must continue.


So, at least for now,  Lisa-Unmasked will remain.

The central story of my life is about sharing the gifts of hell.

Whatever takes you into the pit, I’ll be there with you, because:

I know what it feels like when “they” are all talking about you.

I know what if feels like when the friends you thought you could always count on, no longer return your calls.

I know what it feels like to hurt so bad from crying, you can barely move.

I know what it feels like to not have a clue how you will eat tomorrow.  Or where the next client will come from.

I know what it feels like to be drowning in shame.

I know what its like to wish for death because it feels life has turned its back on you.

I know.

I know you’ll make it out, too.

I know that whatever you’re being called to do and BE is worth the challenges you are facing.

It is worth whatever you are being asked to leave behind.

It is worth YOUR unmasking.

I look forward to being a part of your journey in 2011.  Thank you for being a part of mine.

I love you.


I leave you with a song by Whitney Houston that I’ve shared before.  May you always know your own strength.


15 Responses to “Wearing a New Crown”

  1. FrankDickinson Says:

    Your beautiful crown, complete with the jewels of food and water of life, inspire me Lisa – you have done more for me in 2010 than I can ever put words to – or ever repay.

    All I have for you is my thanks.

    Thank you my friend.
    My recent post Four Tips For Raising Your Game

  2. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    Your faith in me and your never ending words of support and encouragement are gifts I've carried out of the darkness. They will remain forever and always in my heart. Thank YOU.

    I Love you, Frank.

    For real.

  3. @FrankDickinson Says:

    I mentioned to my accountability partner the other day that I have a huge desire and vision for workjing with you on a project or product with you in 2011.

    Let's talk soon.


  4. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    To quote our gurl, Tex in the City, "Woo to the effin HOO!" 🙂

  5. @FrankDickinson Says:

    LOL – perfect!

  6. Allison Nazarian Says:

    Lisa, I have thought of you a few times lately, thinking that our paths haven't crossed on twitter and I wanted to reach out to you. Then I saw Frank's tweet and read this beautiful post. So thank you Frank and thank you of course Lisa as well.

    And while this may sound obvious to an observer, I am sure coming to this profound truth has taken an enormous amount of, so to speak, blood, sweat and tears:
    "The central story of my life is about sharing the gifts of hell."

    Thank you for sharing that which most people never do.

    xo Allison
    My recent post Letter To My 2009 Self

  7. @lipdesign Says:

    This is my 4th attempt to comment. I'm at a loss of words. Simply because this is so profound. And I've known a lot of this all along. Not to sound haughty, no. This makes complete sense to me.

    Because I have been privileged to know so much about your journey, at least this year — your exploration with Inanna, your own descent into hell. When you first sent me that link about the Seven gates; instinctively I saw the connection. From the time we virtually "met" I called you my warrior priestess goddess. Just didn't make the obvious connection. You have shared so much of yourself with me. You talked me down from the ledge. You let me ramble on about sequins and feathers and perimenopause. You were already wearing that crown and mentoring.

    That being said, I applaud and honor you for accepting your "crown" as you prepare to guide many of us, oh great goddess/priestess (we'll take out the warrior part since we already know you carry my personal can of Whoopass). Thank you for being such an integral part of my life in 2010. Thank you for being so willing and able to be so open and vulnerable so we can know (and trust) that it will be OK. Thank you for being you.

    I love you! xoxo, Lori

    PS: Yes, to you and Frank collaborating this year (hee, it's 2011)

  8. Ametia Says:

    Happy New Year, LisaMB! Thank you, for accepting your CROWN.

    And I will be here to learn, share, and grow with you too.

    Peace & Love


  9. Sally G. Says:

    The beauty of a crown, is it rests gently on the 7th Chakra, and there is an opening – through which your Pure Light may shine for all who need its warmth and wisdom; while at the same time, remaining open for the whispers of the Universe to enter, at will.

    You are beautiful. How grateful I am to know you at this time.

    So many of my friends are here too. Happy New Year to you all!

  10. Sally G. Says:

    And now, the song. I had too much on my mind when I typed the original comment to get the 'right song' in my head. I 'heard' it 15 minutes later …

    [youtube bWBWQs63F1o&feature=related youtube]
    My recent post If you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills …

  11. Pamela Says:


    By sharing the shedding of your layers and exposing your vulnerability you've demonstrated the power of knowing your truth.

    I am relieved to know that the unmasking of Lisa will continue. For it is knowing that I am not alone in my journey that I am able to continue my quest to find my authentic self.

    Thank you and Happy New Year!


  12. Rachael Says:

    I am so blessed to know you. xoxo
    My recent post Three Moderately Embarrassing Things

  13. Alisha Says:

    Thank you for sharing this. I have missed your words. I had forgotten how much I feel them at my core.

    I am coming your way at the end of the month and would love to meet up. I hope it works out.

  14. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    Really? How cool! Hope we can connect.

    Have missed you too.


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