Truth–yours or theirs?
I was posting on another blog and read another reader’s comment about life. They wrote, “life is hard, it’s supposed to be.”
huh?
Now I admit that I used to take great pleasure in telling people “nothing’s ever come easy to me.” Like most people of color raised in the church, we have been led to believe that there is something noble in struggling. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “the reward is on the other side.”
bullshit.
A belief is nothing more than a thought that you think over and over. So to change a belief, you change your thoughts, right?
So I began to believe that struggling/suffering was OPTIONAL. A coach I knew used to ask, “how easy can you stand it?” Indeed.
If our life is or appears easy, what does that say about us? Am I less “black” because I haven’t struggled? Am I less a woman because my husband treats me like a queen? Am I somehow unworthy because my child is a ”good kid” who has good manners and doesn’t act like the “typical” 16 year old teenager?
What if we challenged the cliche, “no pain, no gain?” What if we’ve been fed a bunch a lies about life being hard, paying our dues, etc. etc. etc.?
What if the experience of our life is based on what we believe we deserve? Not what THEY think we deserve, but what YOU think you deserve?
My truth: I deserve EASE, PEACE & FLOW.
enuf said.
How’ bout you?
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change-dr. wayne dyer
Let’s Connect!
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Hey Lisa…I'm the one on the other blog that wrote, "Life is hard and it's supposed to be." I luv ya girl, but I still believe that life isn't meant to be a bowl of cherries and we'd be disappointed if it were. I've been through hell and back and I am grateful for every moment. It's made me who I am. It brought me closer to God. If it weren't for all the bad times, I wouldn't be here right now so happy. Everything that has happened to me, good and bad, has made me who I am and brought me to this moment. I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. I've been abused by an alcoholic husband, raped, watched my children being abused, dealt with cancer, was conned out of thousands by Satan himself, but ya know what? I'm alive. I am loved. Each day, I ask, "What would you have me do next Lord?" I ask that question because someone very dear to my heart taught me that nothing is so great that we can't handle it with God's help. That person was you Lisa and I love you with all my heart because you gave me a perspective that has helped me live a life. You taught me that for every challenge I am given, I thank the Lord and ask what more He has for me.
Emily-
Welcome! Glad you found me.
I do believe that it’s a matter of perspective. We all have “stuff.” The labels of “good” versus “bad” are just that–labels. When “stuff” shows up, and it will, we have lots of choices. I believe that one of the choices lies in how we see things. Too me, nothing is neither “good” or “bad”, it just “is.”
And from that perspective is why I believe that life isn’t hard nor was it designed to be. It’s rests in how I look at things.
I do believe that the “stuff” that shows up holds all sorts of gems for us. You are living proof that despite the “stuff” you are choosing to be happy, grateful and inspired. Doesn’t sound like a hard life to me. But again, it’s just my perspective.
I’m so glad you are here, sharing your beautiful self with me. I know deep down that everything you’ve experienced is preparing you to share more and more of yourself in the world. WE NEED YOU. Keep asking, “what’s next?” And prepare to be astounded!