December 5 – Let Go.
What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why?
(Author: Alice Bradley)
There were a lot of things this year that I let go of. Life, in recent years, has been a continual (and often painful) shedding of relationships, jobs, homes, hopes, dreams.
Much of that process has happened publicly.
If not for the blessing that is the Lisa-Unmasked family, most of it I would not have coped with.
There were many days I didn’t want to live through it anymore.
But as I wrote on Day #3, Dear God, I’m Here.
This year was a bit different as it presented opportunities to let go that were not nearly as painful.
Much of them, however, were things that I thought were “gone”.
For awhile, my first reaction was, “Seriously? This? Again?”
And then I would start laughing.
(What was so effin’ funny, you ask?)
I would realize that I was being given an opportunity to go deep.
When I could accept what was being presented from that broader perspective, the “healing” was graceful.
Dare I say, E-A-S-Y.
Working through them (usually by writing ), the sense of completion brought an overwhelming sense of peace.
Once I got there, no matter how I thought about the person or situation, there was no visceral reaction.
Instead, I would feel…gratitude.
I would smile.
“Thank you” would escape my lips before I could stop it.
“It” had lost it grip.
“It” had run it’s course.
I had let go.
Soon I became fascinated by how “letting go” had stopped being a sucky process.
Granted, these were situations that I’d spent a lot of years and even more tears processing.
I had already done much of the heavy lifting.
Still, I couldn’t really think about those situations without a twinge of pain.
So the Uni brought them back up to give me another chance to deal with it.
And finally, I did.
I began to wonder about something a coach told me years ago.
Pain cannot be avoided. But suffering is optional.
I wondered if I could really let go of some of my deepest hurts, the ones I swore I could never let go of.
And the answer was yes.
“Ok Smarty Pants,” I said to the Universe. “HOW?”
It’s all good.
It’s. ALL. GOOD.
And then it hit me.
“It’s all good” suddenly became nothing is wrong.
Let’s put this to the test.
I began to apply that thinking to daily situations.
The stress I experience during my daily commute goes away almost instantly.
I started to apply it to news stories I’d see online.
I could read them and not react violently. 🙂
I tried it on situations with people, like in customer service situations.
I found myself being nicer.
Every time I found myself overreacting to anything, I would say, “Nothing is wrong here.”
And like magic, that’s what I experienced.
Why the hell does this work, I thought?
And it hit me.
This lesson is as old as time.
But I just got it.
Everything and anything that happens in your life presents you with an opportunity to choose who you are going to be.
I want to BE someone who always chooses from love.
So my experiences in each and every moment allow me the opportunity to decide: Do I want to choose from love? Or fear?
Nothing is wrong when you decide to choose to be the person you want to become in any situation.
This year, I finally let go of the lie that anything or anybody needed to change.
Nothing is wrong.
It really is all good.
How ’bout you? What did you let go of?