I Get it Now
Tonight while flipping channels, I made the decision to listen to the ABC Nightly News. I do my best to avoid what passes for news these days. At it’s “best”, it’s simply another medium to program your thinking. It doesn’t let you decide what to think, it tells you. Call me a Cronkite-era baby, but hey, at least he considered me intelligent enough to make my own decisions.
At it’s worst, it’s an over-glorified gossip column. What was the 2nd story of the day: The Tiger Woods car accident saga. Are you kidding me? What part of that story is actually relevant to my life or even news worthy?
I only continued to watch because I was hoping to hear something about the economic drama in Dubai but was also “hooked” in by a story about one of my favorite authors, Dr. Wayne Dyer.
While I didn’t get the goods on what’s up in Dubai, I did get clear on the fact that the so-called journalist believed that what Dr. Dyer teaches (along with others like him) is just a bunch of crap and that he’s gotten rich off of it.
But I stayed with it.
You see, Dr. Dyer has been diagnosed with cancer. What became clear (to me) was that the “journalist” wanted to point out the flaw in Dr. Dyer’s teaching that thinking positively can attract wonderful things into your life. Obviously, if Dr. Dyer has developed cancer, one must conclude by his teachings, that his thoughts created it.
And why would any one create cancer?
Why indeed.
I read Dr. Dyer’s first book when I was 9 years old. I thought “Your Erroneous Zones” was a “dirty” book and I was going to sneak and read it and be a “naughty” girl. The book wasn’t anything of the kind and it started me on path of thinking beyond what I’d been taught. I would veer off course severely, but life would bring me back to his simple teachings. I don’t own every book he’s written, but I do have dreams that he will write the foreword of my book. He’s been a great inspiration.
So, tonight as I listened (quite superficially) to the reporter’s questions of Dr. Dyer, I began to think about the quote from Shakespeare’s Hamlet:
…for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
[William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act II, Scene 2]
You see, the reporter’s point was that Dr. Dyer must be a fraud because he has attracted something “bad.”
But who says cancer is bad?
Every cancer survivor I have ever met tells me that their cancer was “the best thing that ever happened” to them. Huh? I always walk away from those conversations dazed and confused because I have seen the destruction cancer causes to a person and the pain those around them endure watching their loved one suffer.
Cancer is UGLY. Of course, it’s BAD, Lisa.
I began to think about most people’s perception that attracting a million dollars into their lives would be a “good” thing. But what if after getting that million dollars, your entire family was murdered because someone else wanted you to give up that money? Would you see that windfall now as a “good” thing?
Let’s consider Dr. Dyer’s diagnosis. What if from this cancer, he develops a closer relationship with his kids and grandkids? What if he is gifted with a vision that outlines a cure for AIDS? We have no idea what will come from this, so we are not really in a position to call it “good” or “bad.” I believe Dr. Dyer will see the experience as a gift from Source and think and act accordingly. This will keep him in the flow and totally aligned with Source. I would guess that if you can manage that connection, it doesn’t matter what’s going on “out there”. You can find total peace and harmony with what “is”, no matter what “it” is.
That’s flow.
And that’s the experience we came for. That’s what this game is all about.
So to the critics of your thoughts create reality, I say you just don’t get it…yet. We don’t attract circumstances, per se with our thoughts. We attract experiences. If love is what we want to experience, sometimes the circumstances we get is heartbreak. As f’d up as that might seem, when you learn to love deeply, unconditionally, you don’t question “how” you got there and what you “went through” to experience it. You savor and appreciate the feeling, which is what you really wanted to attract all along.
I believe that “positive” thinking will allow your experiences to be less painful, but it will not necessarily stop the painful ones from showing up. Those experiences allow us to re-focus and reconnect with who we say we want to be. They strengthen our resolve to BE that person.
I Get it Now.
Thank you, Dr. Dyer, for once again helping to know something through my own experience. Because of this story and your diagnosis, I finally understand that quote from Hamlet. I finally “get” that I can choose how I think about any event in my life without judging it as good or bad, right or wrong. What a huge gift to finally understand and live, “go with the flow.”
Best of all, I can finally write the last chapter of my book, not surprisingly titled, “I Get it Now.”
How perfect.
Be well. Stay in flow.




I have struggled with this whole concept of our thoughts create our reality for a long time precisely because I couldn’t accept that someone be judged as having failed because they attracted something “bad” into their lives. Seemed to me the last thing a person newly diagnosed with cancer needed to hear was that they had created it themselves.
For the same reason, I have had a real problem with “The Secret” and other Law of Attraction-based teachings that are so popular these days I’m tempted to call them a fad. My gut told me something was missing — they had taken a profound truth of the Universe and oversimplified it. To say nothing of blaming the victim — something we love to do in this society.
You have pinpointed what it was that was missing, why I had such a hard time with the our thoughts create our reality philosophy. The missing piece of the puzzle is the whole idea of not judging an experience or event as good or bad, not judging ME as good or bad because of attracting that experience. Plus you reminded me that I can choose how to think about something that shows up in my life. I don’t have to go to the automatic knee jerk reaction that I have somehow failed because my life isn’t a bed of roses. What a relief!
Thank you, Lisa. I think Dr. Dyer would be very proud of you right now. You are a worthy student of his teachings. I’ve read almost everything he’s written, but I think this is the first time I’ve really understood what he means by flow. Thanks for explaining it in a way I could get it — finally!
Hope you’re sending this post to Dr. Dyer. Even the great ones need to know what a difference they make in people’s lives.
Love,
Carol
Lisa,
What a timely revelation in my life. I don’t know how you do it but you always touch my heart.
All my best,
Pam
Carol & Pamela,
Thank you. Your comments are so touching, yet in reading them I realize how difficult it is for me to take in positive feedback. I think the lesson for me is that you never know how your teachers will show up and that EVERYONE has something to teach. I guess we all do need each other.
Much love & gratitude.
Thank you for being such a good example of what being conscious is truly about…I do love the way you think, Lisa…and honor they way you live…love you, ANi