Going Deep and Playing for Keeps

I hate fluff.

I hate superficial crap.  Small talk.  Pleasantries.

I hate FAKE.

But of course, we know, I AM all those things, right?

(You can’t see in others what’s not in you.)

You see, for days now, I’ve been avoiding an email in Facebook.  It was lovely and all but I just couldn’t figure out why it was bothering me so much.

And then it hit me.

I’m not interested in superficial relationships.

Period.

Connecting with another human being is sacred to me.  As someone said to me earlier this week, I feed on it.

Connection is what gets me out of bed in the morning.

(There. I said it.)

I don’t know why I have been afraid to say that out loud.  Perhaps, I really just only found the words today, I don’t know.

What I do know is that I’m not interested in relationships where people aren’t willing to put all their shit on the table.  If you can’t keep it real with me, keep moving.

Connecting with me means going deep and playing for keeps.

Now, that doesn’t mean we will be friends forever.  I know that.  What is does mean is that as long as we choose to be in each other’s lives, that we co-create a space that allows for full disclosure.

That doesn’t mean you have to tell me EVERYTHING, either.

It simply means that we both feel that it’s completely safe for either of us to do so.

That’s the gift coaching has given me and without realizing it, I have come to expect it in my non-coaching relationships.

When that safety is absent, I go silent.  When it’s there and withdrawn, I get angry and confused.

It’s a requirement for me and today I realized it is NON-NEGOTIABLE.

In this realization, I had to get really honest with this person.  I had to let them know that connecting with me is not an easy thing and I could not be a superficial “friend.”

In other words, I decided to speak my truth about what I needed.

Whoa.

It’s quite liberating to realize what’s important to you and refuse to compromise on it.

It’s empowering to MAKE IT KNOWN to others without fear of their reaction.

By golly, I think I’ve grown a bit today.

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So what truth will you speak today?

What will you refuse to compromise on?

How will you honor what’s sacred to you?

I’d love to hear about.  Speak your truth out loud on the blog.

I love ya’.

Going deep and playin’ for keeps,

Lisa