Oct '11

Full Circle

Funny thing happens whenever I ACCEPT the call to write.

Words come.

Fast and furious.

I have no less than 4 posts clamoring for attention.

I can’t keep them all straight in my head. (No, I am NOT complaining! 🙂 )

This isn’t the story that I planned to tell today. But it’s the one that won.


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The sense of peace I felt when I woke up enveloped me like the cozy flannel sheets I was wrapped up in.

Unlike many dreams, I awoke from this one knowing exactly where I was and no doubts on what the dream meant.

I was at the 25th class reunion as a guest of my first 2 college roommates.  I was standing in the lower hallway of the main building on campus, where I’d spent far too much time people watching, staring at some breathtaking artwork.

I looked to my left.

There he was.

Approaching me.

There was no place to go.

And I didn’t want to run.

It was a conversation I knew I was ready to have.

The awkward pleasantries soon unfolded into an apology.

I didn’t need one.

I accepted it, graciously, but felt that we both needed to be clear about something.

There was nothing to apologize for.

While he could take responsibility for his actions, I had to take responsibility for my reactions.

I alone was responsible for my feelings.

My pain was my own.

It always had been.

As I listened to him speak, I realized that I wasn’t really there.

He noticed it too.

“The connection is gone, isn’t it?” he whispered.

I searched my body for an answer.

It was not a question to be answered without deep consideration. The connection, a “cosmic” one he once called it, had bound us for some 25+ years. Personally, I’d come to believe it spanned multiple lifetimes.

In a blink of an eye, I had a Matrix moment. If you’ve seen the movie, you remember when Neo was “disconnected” after taking the red pill? Remember all of those lines coming out of his body rather violently?

That’s what was happening to me.

I won’t tell you it didn’t hurt but I really wasn’t that aware of the pain. Just this sort of queasy feeling as I still was a bit unsure of what was going on.

I guess I took a little too long to answer, because he started talking again.

I couldn’t hear him.

I mean, I knew he was talking to me. I could hear words. But nothing was making sense.

Yet for some reason, I responded, “What you have to say no longer matters.”


The last chord popped from my just below my heart space.

Suddenly I was transported back to the porch of his dorm, October 1985, watching him say those same words to the sobbing me.

His “spirit” followed me there.

I stepped into my 20 year old self. The tears stopped. I could feel this power rising up. I looked down and saw the shattered pieces of my heart. I picked them up.


Somehow I was loving every moment of the process, actually smiling for some reason.

And with all the love and compassion I could offer, looked at him and said, “What you have to say no longer matters. It really never did. I had just forgotten that what I thought about me mattered more. Thank you.”

And with that, I woke up.


I’d come full circle.


Sometimes you have to live the illusion that someone has taken something away from you only to realize that you actually gave it away.

You can always get it back.

It’s YOUR power. Go (re)claim it.


What are you willing to bring full circle today?

Please let me know how I can help.

Been there. Done that. Love YOU. 🙂


18 Responses to “Full Circle”

  1. Buzz Buckingham Says:

    Your words left me beaming with a smile on my face!
    My recent post Getting Psyched

  2. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    HA! Wish you were here so we could go outside and shout, "Free At Last" at the top of our lungs.:) You always made the pain more bearable and the joy more glorious.

    Thank you.

    Love you!

  3. susan Says:

    🙂 yippeeee! Let's throw a parade. Love you

  4. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    *chuckles* Yippeeeeee is right. Feels great, Angel. Thank you!


  5. Dana Reeves Says:


    LOVED this. Love you more. 🙂

  6. LisaMilesBrady Says:

    Awww, shucks. Blushin' here. 😉

    Thank you, Dana! Feelin' your love. #sograteful

  7. Lisa Miles Brady Says:

    My Matrix Moment: Lisa-Unmasked

  8. Sally_G Says:

    Yay you!! Forgiveness is like this too -> RT @LisaMilesBrady My Matrix Moment: Lisa-Unmasked

  9. Lori I Paquette Says:

    sweet! She hit "publish" *off to read again* –> RT @LisaMilesBrady: My Matrix Moment: Lisa-Unmasked

  10. Dana Reeves Says:

    Beautiful. RT @LisaMilesBrady: My Matrix Moment: Lisa-Unmasked

  11. @lisarobbinyoung Says:

    What I like about this is that it gives us a concrete example of re-writing our own stories – even if it was a dream. What I LOVE about this is that you re-wrote your own story in a very public way. Thank you for being you. Hugs!

  12. Alyson Earl Says:

    Full Circle – @LisaMilesBrady <–Welcome home.

  13. Peggie Arvidson Says:

    RT @LisaMilesBrady: My Matrix Moment: Lisa-Unmasked (such a great way to put this realization!) huzzah!

  14. Fix It Group, London Says:

    Lisa Bradey talks about the pain of truly letting go. #FixItGroup

  15. Wayne @Reflexology Says:

    I've been reading your posts for about the last two hours and with every one I read I become more transfixed on your words and the way they make me feel.
    I've always known about and understood my empathic nature, however this post really smacked me hard in the solar plexus. I'm reeling (emotionally) from the retelling and want more!
    Thank you for what you do and please keep on doing it!

    Wayne Nelson
    Redmond Reflexology

  16. Steve Says:

    Thanks for the engaging post! For me life will come to a full circle, when someone (I cannot reveal the name) will leave my life forever. I do not want her to die but I want her to go away from my haunting thoughts of her.
    My recent post The Root and Solutions of Commitment Phobia

  17. John Says:

    Yes, I want to win back my girl friend. I know she loves me but there is somebody else in her thoughts too. Can a person love two people at a time? Is it possible? Please help me!!
    My recent post Will My Ex Come Back ?

  18. Leonor Miller Says:

    Thanks for an inspirational post! There was something in my life that changed before few months and I had accepted it forever. But your words have inspired me. Your words power to reclaim have motivated me to once again fight the battle of life.
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