Cuttin’ Loose

I let go of a few connections on Facebook today.  It was time.

While I love the opportunity to connect with old and new friends alike, there were a few connections that just didn’t feel good.  I reluctantly accepted some connections as a sign that I had “grown” and decided to continue a few because I didn’t want to “appear” bitter.

Whatever.

As I was doing my morning pages (a writing ritual in which I dump the junk so I can actually think), I became very angry about some of these connections.  But instead of being all “adult”, I just sat with it.  I pissed, moaned, cursed, shouted (all on paper) and allowed my feelings the space they had so desperately needed.

When the violent vomit session was over, I felt better.  I was surprised that I still held such crap, but now it was gone.  And then it became clear to me to CUT THEM LOOSE.

NOT because I was still angry.

NOT because I was being vindictive or childish.

NOT because suddenly I was “over” it.

It was because I could clearly see that the connections did not serve me in this new place.

When I thought of those people, I could smile.  Even be grateful for their place in my life.

And I could see that my energetic ties to them no longer felt good.  They didn’t inspire me.  They didn’t lift me up.   They simply no longer resonated with the person that I AM..today.

So, I cut them loose.  With love in my heart and gratitude on my lips.

It’s clear that if you know me or read this blog, I have a hard time letting go.   (you think?)  I understand now that letting go doesn’t have to be done with anger, bitterness, or even a reason.  You KNOW when something no longer serves you. (don’t you?)

Letting go doesn’t make you a bad person.

Just because you’ve invested time, money, love and energy into something doesn’t mean it has to last forever.  Change is the only constant, people.  EVERY moment is different than the last.  YOU are different person today than you were yesterday.

Hopefully, you’ve grown.  And sometimes that means that you’ve “outgrown” certain people, places and things.

What in your life no longer inspires you?

What do you still keep around that is taking your energy and not providing any return on that investment? (No,  not in a “what have you done for me lately?” way, but in a “you make me feel like dancin’” sort of way)

I invite you to love yourself enough today to CUT IT LOOSE.  (And yes, I realize that may include me.)

You inspire me!

Lisa